Tolerant Friends

Since my last post, I have now lost a third Facebook friend.
Bye Felicia!

Because I am a “resourceful shit,” as my friend Amy has called me, I’ve figured out who the three friends are.
Guess what they all have in common?! Democrats, left-leaning. But they are tolerant – all inclusive… and can’t handle it when things don’t go their way.

A friend of mine reminded her Facebook friends of a bumper sticker that was somewhat popular in 2008. With the Obama logo in the O’s – “He won. Get Over It.”
Same goes true for this election- there is nothing you can do but move on. You can think whatever you want, you can be upset, you can be against the results – regardless, Trump is now our president for at least the next 4 years. You can let it consume you, or you can go on with your daily life and hope for the best.
I hope the Trump presidency will be everything I hope it will be; only time will tell.

Now, on to the Felicias –
(1. Tara – high school acquaintance. Open Hillary supporter. I can’t remember the last time I saw her, and since I’m not planning to attend any high school reunions any time soon… I probably won’t see her again for quite a while.

(2. Joey the mommy blogger. Self-proclaimed Feminist. Trump hater.
This one is kind of sad to me- I had read a post she’d written last week, dogging the small town where she grew up. She said life there was a dead end street, and you’re likely to end up barefoot and pregnant if you stay there. She got quite a few negative responses in her comments!
Many of my friends grew up in a small town- some stayed, some chose to leave. I don’t think that choosing to stay makes you any less of a person – it doesn’t define your self worth. I was working on a letter to her in my head, but I never made it to the keyboard… and I guess now it doesn’t much matter.

(3. A cousin through marriage, Henry. This one kind of surprised me- I don’t even know what to think of it. Guess we’ll have FUN at Thanksgiving.

If you feel the need to unfriend people, I think you should do so. I actually prefer the “hide” function, so that when you come to your senses – or get over being mad, you can easily get back to the way things were. Unfriending is so permanent, and you can bet I won’t accept a return friend request from these three anytime soon.
I didn’t unfriend anyone during the campaigning or election – in fact, I only have one person ‘hidden’ – and it’s just because every post is “Like and Share if you love your Mom!” or something of the sort.
I do suspect that most of my family has my ‘hidden.’ Many of you know that I RARELY post a pic of my kid on Facebook – I think he has 4 pictures online in 3.5 years. I posted his Halloween picture, and not one family member ‘liked’ it. Think I have a good case?! (At least my moms love me- LOL.)
Those ‘tolerant’ (all-inclusive) friends and family members don’t wish to be bothered with my thoughts, updates and pictures, but you never know when you might miss out on something cool.

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Election thoughts…

The results of the election were announced very early yesterday morning – Tuesday night, I went to bed about 10:30, and finally turned off the television to go to sleep around 12:45 a.m. Still no decision then, so I hoped for the best and planned to wait until morning.
Steven woke up some time in the 2:00-hour… went downstairs, turned on the TV, to see Donald Trump giving his victory speech. Steven woke me up to tell me the news, and for the next two hours, I slept more soundly than I had the entire night.

A Trump victory is exactly what we were hoping for.
I usually don’t write about politics – I keep it off of Facebook mostly, unless I like/react to a friend’s post.
My friends know I’m a Republican and mostly Conservative on the issues. I voted for DJT first because I care about the small business I work for. The past seven years have been increasingly difficult, as I see other small businesses fold, or begin to buy less product. Our B2B sales have suffered, hence my commission also suffered.
Second, the passing of the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare). Since my small business has way under 50 employees, they don’t offer health insurance – they aren’t required to. Our owner IS gracious enough to contribute $150 per month toward our individually purchased health insurance, but not having a large group to create a plan, it’s very difficult to find a good affordable plan!
My plan has ‘ended’ twice; so every year I have had to choose a new plan… with a higher deductible, and a higher price. (2016 = $838.00/month with $3800 deductible … up next, 2017 = $917/month, co-pay only plan… deductible $7600) Insurance strikes a nerve with me, and I have often been upset about it. I had to vote against the ACA and hope for it’s repeal and replacement with something that will work much better!
I need the economy to improve- for jobs to stay here in America… for a chance that my small business will grow, and the employees can once again be successful and not struggle to make ends meet!

When Obama won, I was upset – I feared for what the future held. Everyone said, “Get Over It!” I didn’t care for his views, but apparently the majority of America did… so I kept my mouth shut, and went on with it. It’s different when things don’t go your way, though – and some Democrats are making it well known!

I’ve found myself spending less time on Facebook because of the election results- the ‘tolerant left’ suddenly seems riddled with hate and mean words, and I read silly stories about students who can’t attend class because they are so upset. Friends and acquaintances are arguing over the results, and unfriending each other for political differences. I don’t remember this kind of stuff going on 4 years ago!! I miss seeing pictures of your pets and kids!
I’ve lost two Facebook friends in the past two days, and I haven’t really said a word! I don’t think I’ve ever unfriended someone for political reasons – I have many liberal/democrat friends, and I like them very much (regardless of their political views). So be it – maybe I should post something political; I’ve been meaning to clean up my friends list anyway!

I’m excited to continue to raise my son under Trump’s presidency –
What will I tell him? I will correct his language when need be, and explain to him how philanthropy and entrepreneurship are cornerstones of being successful.
I will teach him that lying, cheating, killing and corruption is wrong – and only hope that I do a great job instilling values and qualities that I believe in.

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The times…

Last night, SB and I were trying to figure out if we’d ever been to Carrabba’s. I don’t really know what got us on the subject… but SB remembered someone had told him that Carrabba’s was an “upscale Olive Garden.”
I was pretty sure we’d been there years ago… but couldn’t recall what we’d eaten, or if we enjoyed it. Alas – the search feature on the trusty old blog!
Yes, we have in fact, been to Carrabba’s – in 2004, with some old Tri-Cities buddies. I didn’t write much about it, but as far as I can tell… we only went to the bar for drinks- and possibly an appetizer.

While perusing the results of our question – I was once again reminded of the days when I wrote somewhat-lengthy posts, and had more random thoughts to write about. I still have random thoughts, so many years later… but I question – who wants to read them? does anyone read them? and do I really want them out in the open?!

A few months ago, I wrote about the “50 Pieces of Unsolicited Advice” that I hoped to publish. Well, now I have NINE things. My friend is now due in 3 weeks, and honestly, I think she’ll meet her baby boy before then.
I decided not to give her the list – or even make mention of it – I’m no expert… I’ve only been a mom for three years. I can only tell you the things I’ve learned, and what worked for me – every parent is different…. so I’ll just keep out. Maybe someday I will finish it, and post it here – if one piece of advice gets used; it’s worth it.

Sean turned three about 5 weeks ago- we had his party ON his birthday.
I was thrilled for a beautiful sunny day, because we booked a pavilion at a nearby park (with no refunds for rain). We only had 6 kids plus Sean, but it was really perfect – not overwhelming, and manageable. Mostly girls were in attendance – Sean sure is the ladies man, I guess!

Having a party at a park is good and bad…
-You don’t have to entertain the kids – with a huge playground, and a duck pond (I brought bread) – the kids were easily entertained.
-No one is in your HOUSE!
-You have to carry everything you could possibly need to the park
-You have to keep food covered and cold/hot
-You have to clean up and take everything home with you

Speaking of parks, my next goal is to make some short reviews of parks in our area. We have visited several, and I’d love to share my thoughts on them.

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The Penny Pincher vs The Unlikely Mommy Blogger

The Penny Pincher
My friends know that I love to save money where and when I can.
I’ve been doing online surveys since 2006, and for the most part, know the ins and outs on how to make a little bit of extra cash with them. Sure – I’m not getting rich doing it, but that extra $10 or $20 here and there is fun to get.
Lately, my favorites are Target gift cards and Amazon gift cards. My weekly goal is to redeem at least one $5 gift card to Target – it’s not much, but these days, every little bit counts. Amazon gift cards are a little more scarce, but I love the ability to save them in my account and let them accumulate for a larger purchase. I’ve bragged to some friends about purchasing the kid’s birthday and Chanukah gifts solely with Amazon gift cards – and sometimes even had some funds left over to buy for my niece and some cousins!

Last weekend at Target I had $10.25 in coupons… plus my Cartwheel savings… 5% red card discount… and survey gift cards – I felt so smart. And then of course, I uploaded my receipts to my random sites that give cash back. Yay.
Once, a woman behind me in line asked me if I was ‘extreme couponing’ – I laughed and said, no… just lots of research and my shopping list.
I certainly don’t need 6 bottles of mustard – but if I have a coupon for shampoo, I’m going to buy it even if I don’t need it right away – it’ll get used. And used at $1.00 off the regular price!

The Unlikely Mommy Blogger
I’ve fallen down on “the job” of posting my thoughts about kids and babies… I have good ideas in my head sometimes, but they don’t always make it onto the keyboard!
A friend is having a baby boy in July, and said she is willing to accept any and all advice from various sources – As something fun, I started writing a Word doc titled “50 pieces of unsolicited advice,” but so far I only have 6 things. Geez. I feel like there is so much to say…

We’re loosely working on potty training right now. Some days it’s easier said than done. We have had some success, and I think the kid understands the concept… but I also think sometimes he is distracted or lazy.
I’ve read a few tips and tricks, including how to reward your child for using the toilet. Jellybeans, M&M’s, stickers, etc… my kid likes stickers okay, but isn’t a fan of candies.
So far, nickels are working pretty good – he just loves putting nickels in his bank! Thank goodness my husband saves his change – I went through some, and found 25 nickels to keep upstairs for when we need them. The kid is definitely smart – the idea of money appeals to him so much more than candy and stickers.

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